The unity sand ceremony is an elegant addition to your wedding, and as with any important tradition there are certain details that are necessary in order to ensure that the ceremony is especially significant. I have run across several common areas that many couples don’t realize they’ve overlooked during the course of planning a unity sand ceremony, and these exclusions can mar the beauty of the event. First and foremost is omitting vows from the ceremony.
On one level, it’s not surprising that vows might be omitted. After all, a couple does not want their wedding to be overly long. They may want the unity sand ceremony to be as brief as possible, and they believe that deleting vows will help them to accomplish that mission. Also, they might be a bit tongue-tied – in other words, they simply may not know what to say.
Bridal couples can be understandably nervous, which can translate into the concern that they won’t be able to remember the vows. Not to worry, though – the officiant can have a copy of the vows and be on standby to prompt you and your beloved, if there’s a need to do so. Another approach that I highly recommend is to memorize the top three themes in your sand ceremony vows and give yourself creative license to improvise should the need arise. Just take a deep breath, speak from the heart, and you’ll be fine.
It’s important to realize that overlooking the unity sand ceremony vows can inadvertently place too great a spotlight on the officiant. Merely doing his duty, through the power of words, the officiant ends up assuming the attention from the bride and groom – the very people the ceremony is designed for.
We know from Scripture, death and life are found in the power of the tongue. By speaking words of love to one another, the couple speaks life into their relationship. Do not underestimate the power of words. Without these promises, this spoken commitment, the wedding and the marriage that follows can both falter.
The wedding day is your day; not the officiant’s. To ensure that your special day is as exquisite as it should be, be sure to plan out your unity sand ceremony vows in advance. Then, once those wedding day jitters arrive, you can rest assured that you have everything under control. But don’t neglect the vows from your preparations. The success of your unity sand ceremony depends upon these vital words.